In society nowadays, many people wants to be right about something.
I'll admit, even I've been like that before. We all make mistakes...
I'm not saying its bad to be right about something...
But sometimes... we are misled by pride. Of knowing what we "know" is right.
But what rights does that right have to be right? right? o _ o...
I mean... in this world, many people have different views and perspectives.
Have you ever heard of this phrase:
"One man's hero is another man's villain."
My point is that sometimes, somethings are just unjustifiable, take for example fighting for survival.
If your righteousness is publicly accepted, that is a good thing.
But what I want to say is that being right is not everything.
I'm not talking about "everything being right" at the right place, doing the right thing at the right time.
I'm trying to say that perhaps there are certain situations where the sense of righteousness mislead us into being hurtful to others in a bad way, perhaps one others don't deserve.
And that is the negative part of pride.
Let me paint you a scenario to open your eyes to this message:
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In a life of a family that consist of a father and a very mischievous young son,
the son loves taking newspapers from dining table and hiding them to get his busy father attention.
The father wants to read the newspapers every morning but because of this, only during his free time, he tries searching for them knowing quite well where the son hides them in the usual spots.
One day, something more peculiar happened:
After placing on his clothes and when he was about to leave the house,
the father realized that he could not find his key and he remembered placing them on the dining table.
It was on an important day of work and he had to attend an important event.
However he needed the key to exit his house.
"Hiding newspapers is trivial but now THIS?" the father became angry and suspected that this was probably his son's doing.
He approached the son and ask for the first time where did the son place it and explained the serious consequences of the son's action. But the son answered that he doesn't know about its whereabouts and said that he did not take it. "This is no time for games!!" the father doubted the son and made the son feel uneasy.
The son said he was really telling the truth but the father refuse to buy in to that excuse and being enraged, scolded the son for lying fiercely.
The son cried, whimpering that he really doesn't know where it is and runs off to his room slamming the door.
So, pissed off, the father went searching for it planning to unlock his son's room to search for it the last.
Halfway throughout his search, he found it in his own long pants pocket and remembered why it was there.
On the night before, he worked very late and was very sleepy. He took a precaution to place it in his long pants that he wants to wear the next day and neglected his routine of placing it on the dining table.
He had forgotten about this and insisted that it had to be on the dining table all along.
Feeling very guilty, he apologized to his son for being so harsh and unreasonable just before leaving the house and he could feel the son becoming slightly more hateful towards him.
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In this example, the father refuse to accept his son's answer because he was too sure of himself about being correct about the location of his keys.
And he made a rash decision in his accusation brought upon the pressure of the importance of his work.
Sometimes, its better to remain peaceful and be slow to anger.
Its better not to be fast to judge things as it "should" seem.
And sometimes, it definitely pays to be more trustful and empathetic to others.
We don't want to misunderstand others and cause something really bad to happen.
Its hard to understand and live with others if we authentically refuse to accept their ways.
Let go off your ego during serious times~
- Mervyn
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